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Home Health Care Tip — Spend this Valentine’s Day with a Senior

Article category: Home Health Care, Senior Care, Eldercare, In-Home Care, Caregivers.

Home Health Care Tip — Spend this Valentine’s Day with a Senior

Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Yet, when we researched what people regret the most in their lives, we learned that most lists of regrets featured the following:

      • “not spending enough time with my loved ones,”
      • “working too much at the expense of my family and friends,”
      • “not having the courage to express my feelings.”

Most of us have regrets — big or small — but what causes us to regret?


The word “regret,” when used as a noun, is “a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done — especially a loss or missed opportunity.” Merriam-Webster dictionary defines “regret” as: “sorrow by circumstances beyond one’s control or power to repair.

Although the Merriam-Webster’s interpretation is more politically-correct because it makes us feel less responsible, we believe that this interpretation is disempowering. Is it not? It seems to take away our ability to take control, to make things right, to right the wrongs, to repair them. We believe that not everything is within our control, but many things are. 

Most of Us Have Regrets

If someone ever tells you that they have no regrets, they are probably not being completely open. Most of us, if not all of us, have regrets. However, it is true that some of us have very few regrets, and others live in constant regret. Furthermore, some of us have major regrets, whereas others have minor ones.

Where Do Regrets Come From?

Where do regrets come from? Is it possible that regrets are things that are of great importance to us, that have not been accomplished? If so, how can we minimize our future regrets — at least the major ones? We don’t have time to do it all, but, we might just have time to accomplish the most important things. What, then, are the things that matter most in life — in your life? Not surprisingly, most seniors desperately want to age in the comfort of their own home, receive home health care, and be cared for by a caregiver who will assist them stay at home and maintain their health.

The Reality is that We Get to Decide What Really Matters

The reality is that we, whether we are cognizant of it or not, remain in control of our lives and how we live them. We get to decide what is and what is not important to us. We, therefore, get to decide where to focus our energies. We get to decide what to focus on, and what to disregard. Deciding what to disregard (what is minor) is perhaps more important than deciding what to focus on (what is major). It is a process of elimination. When we decide what is not important to us, we end up with things that really matter. According to AARP, when it comes to 89% of our aging parents, what matters most to them is aging at home, not necessarily with 24-hour care, but with a caregiver or home health care aide that comes in Monday through Friday for 4, 6, or 8 hours a day. If aging at home is what matters most to our seniors, let us assist them accomplish that dream, and eliminate any major regrets.

What Happens When We Decide?

When we consciously separate the minor things from the major ones, when we decide what really matters, we may just find that what really matters are:

    • Love,
    • Family,
    • Relationships,
    • Friendships.

When we decide what matters to us we are able to re-prioritize our life, and minimize major regrets.

Let us Choose Love, Family, Relationships and Friendships

Let us choose love and nurture the relationships with our loved ones. Let us push back all the minor things that are being pushed upon us, and decide to spend some real quality time with our loved ones — especially our aging loved ones. After all, our time with them is limited. Let us plan a Valentine’s Day lunch, early dinner (or just a tea-time) with our elderly Moms and Dads. Do not forget to bring the grandchildren along — grandparents probably adore them, and their eyes and hearts light up when they see them. 


We wish you a wonderful Valentine’s Day, and life with only minor regrets…

Share with us what matters most in your life?

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In few words, Blize Healthcare brings healthcare home. We offer a full-service Seniorcare, Home Health Care, palliative care, and hospice care. Click here to view a full list of the types of care we provide.
Blize Healthcare brings seniorcare to clients in San Jose, Oakland, San Francisco, Napa, and Sacramento areas. To learn more, call Blize Healthcare today 1-800-343-2549.


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Article topic: In-Home Care, Caregivers, Home Health Care, Senior Care, Eldercare.